Does anyone else feel like this time of year sneaks up on you? Heading into May, it already seems to be packed - then inevitably a few more things get added to our calendars, themed days at school pop up out of nowhere (at least for Abby's kids), typical responsibilities suddenly feel like a drain, and our to-do lists start to feel like they need their own to-do list. While we might not have the perfect solutions (spoiler alert: we are in the trenches with you!), we do have a few tips that might keep you from pulling out your hair or throwing up your hands in defeat.
Embrace the season. This time of year is hard. There IS a lot going on – that may be finals, end-of-school year activities, changes in sport seasons, transitioning schedules, summer prep, or whatever else. Rather than getting frustrated that this season is jam-packed, embrace the busy-ness for now. It is not forever, but for right now – and you can do it temporarily when you acknowledge the reality of the season. Stop trying to make May feel like July.
Say no to something. There may be quite a few things you say "yes" to right now - whether you want to, or you have to. However, find a moment to pause and check in on what can get a "no" from you this season. Maybe this is a "no" to baking homemade treats for your kid's class when store bought will do just fine (and letting your partner pick that up). Or a "no" to new clients for now - like Abby who just put up a wait list until August. Perhaps a "no" to your friend who wants to reconnect but if you're being honest, they are just a drain on you for the time being. A "no" can be for now, forever, or anything in between. The "no" we don't recommend is saying "no" to yourself - remember the Mindset #2 blog - Protect the asset - YOU!
Be lazy about the things that do not matter. We see you trying to be great at all the things all the time! When things feel heavy and chaotic, here's a gentle reminder that that's not the name of the game this season. Choose what is really important to you for the time being - where you actually want to spend your time, energy, and effort. And allow yourself to be "lazy" at other things - maybe it's cooking the easier dinner, checking email less frequently, or letting the clean laundry go unfolded for another day. Lindsey likes to ask, "Where would B- work (or less) be sufficient right now?"
Give yourself some compassion. When things are hard, we have a tendency to become more critical of ourselves. Isn't that interesting, too - when you think about how we don't like to receive that from others? Remember that awful coach who yelled when you didn't play well or the teacher who consistently pointed out where you fell short? Instead, show yourself some compassion - because you are a human, not a robot. Curious about what this looks like in action? Check out our recent guest blog post on self-compassion for entrepreneurs.
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